Request for a Tantra massage session

In the last time there were many people ignoring my requirement for arranging a massage session. From my point of view this is unrespectful and not considering my situation. How can I know that I can trust you and that you are the right person for my massage when you don't give me any information about you and why you want to experience a tantra massage. I don't answer those ignoring my requirement, maybe they think they get along with it. I believe when you don't accept my requirement you won't respect me and my rules during the massage either. If you really want something you show a little bit of affort. This is life, only when you show a little bit of affort something good comes back to you.